Importance of Patience in Marriage

Many factors contribute to a satisfying marriage/relationship such as; Love, Commitment, Trust, Time, Attention, Good Communication including Listening, Tolerance, Patience, Openness, Honesty, Respect, Sharing, Consideration, Generosity, Willingness/Ability to Compromise, etc.

Today we are going to discuss the importance of Patience in maintaining a Healthy Relationship or Healthy Marriage. It is very crucial for the success of any marriage. More importantly, the lack of patience in a marriage can be very destructive. We believe it’s one of the most important marriage skills every couple needs to learn and practice daily basis. 

We need to understand what is patience??? 

Patience is the ability to control from reacting in anger or frustration. Controlling from not being aggressive by any means. If you say anything harsh or use wrong words to your spouse in anger, how do you feel moments after having realized you can’t take those words back? Not a good feeling right??? It is always better to use our words consciously and act wisely.

Here are some practical ways to develop the patience to keep your married life happy:-

1. Find out triggering factors and accept them:-

Everyone will have some emotional weak points. One needs to observe, explore and find out what are the weak points that are causing impatience and aggression in us. Try to working on those factors positively. Consciously accept your weakness. Once you accept your weaknesses you can turn them into your biggest strength.

2. Reduce the use of mobiles and computers:-

Technology can be the biggest boon for all human beings if we use it cautiously, over and unnecessary use of mobile or computer or any electronic gadgets in that matter will seek your attention and will lower down your concentration, increasing Restlessness, resulting in reduced patience level. Radiation hazard is an additional issue again.

3. Be a good forgiver:-

Instead of putting a tag on who is wrong or who is right in any conflicts, just try to be calm and forgive that person or situation that is hurtful for you. Remember only a good forgiver can solve any relationship hurdles. A great forgiver is the most peaceful human being on this planet. So be a little selfish and practice forgiveness every day.

4. Self Love:-

As we all know forgiving others will relieve you from your resentments. But don’t forget to love yourself. If you have any past deep resentment about your acts, speech, try to forgive yourself and start loving yourself. Try to keep the innocent child inside you alive throughout your life. In marriage especially if you want to be happy, before you love your spouse, start loving yourself.

5. Learn Patience before you start Parenthood:-

Marriage is just not about living or enjoying together. One or the other day a small baby is going to enter your married life. The emotional preparation of parenthood should start before you plan for it. Being patient with your spouse can also help you to develop a skill for parenting. Remember your children are part of you; they will grow up looking at you. So patience in you will indirectly seep into them.

6. Holistic approach:-

Self-improvement is only possible when you practice it consciously. When we try from our end the universe will help us in thousands of ways to manifest it. Regular meditation, breathing exercises, cultivating hobbies can boost your mental peace ultimately patience level. We also have different remedies in our alternative medicines to maintain and improve our patience level. Remember Universe is giving all that we want but we should be conscious enough to receive it more optimistically.

These 6 simple practices can help improve your patience level to a considerable extent. Learning patience can be a difficult experience, but once it is conquered you will find life is much easier. I know it is sometimes inevitable that two people living in such close proximity will irritate each other a bit, maybe a lot. So to make your marriage a successful love story, love between you both should be laced with patience.