Love Marriage vs Arranged Marriage

Love Marriage vs. Arranged Marriage – What Really Matters?

We often hear the saying, “Marriages are made in heaven.” But the truth is, while destiny may play a role, we still need to take that first step to find our life partner here on earth. Marriage is not just about a grand celebration—it is a lifelong journey, a rollercoaster filled with fun, challenges, and shared growth.

In our rich Hindu culture, we see many forms of marriages, but today two types stand out as most common: Love Marriage and Arranged Marriage. While the rituals and ceremonies might look similar, the journey for every couple is unique—and it all begins with how you choose your partner.

The Arranged Marriage Perspective

As a marriage counsellor, I often see that in arranged marriages, brides and grooms (and their families) come with a long list of expectations—caste, sub-caste, age difference, education, income package, even height and complexion. Profiles get filtered endlessly, and the search for a “perfect match” sometimes goes on from the age of 27 till well into the late 30s or even 40s.

The underlying belief here is: “If all criteria match, the marriage will flourish.” But does life really work like a checklist?

The Love Marriage Perspective

Now let’s look at couples in love marriages. Do they follow all these criteria before deciding? Most of the time, the answer is no. Love marriage often blossoms from connection, companionship, and shared values rather than ticking off boxes. You’ll notice how two seemingly “imperfect” individuals often build a beautiful life together, simply because they chose each other with acceptance and love.

Of course, both love and arranged marriages have their share of challenges. Conflicts can arise in any relationship. But when the foundation of partner selection is less materialistic and more about emotional connection, life tends to flow more happily and smoothly.

What Really Matters in Marriage?

It’s not about the looks, financial package, or social status. What truly sustains a marriage is the positive exchange of energy between two people. They say, “Energy never lies.” And it’s true.

Love marriage may not be an option for everyone. But if you are choosing the path of arranged marriage, remember:

Be open-minded.

Be positive.

Don’t limit yourself with rigid filters

Allow the universe to guide you—not towards the “best” match on paper, but towards a suitable life partner who complements your journey.

At the end of the day, marriage is not about perfection, but about partnership. It’s about walking together through ups and downs, with respect, acceptance, and love.

💌 Dr. Snehal Sukhatankar

Founder, Saptapadi Vivah

  22nd August, 2025