Matrimonial Search & Rejection

Recently I met one engineer groom, his statement about his matrimonial search was “ Searching a Job is much better and easier than partner searching.”  Looking at today’s situation, I feel many of the brides and grooms are going through the same pain.  The reasons are different but the problem is the same. “ Increased ratio of  Rejection” from the other profiles. Depression and Frustration due to rejections are two common words I commonly hear from many brides and grooms.
      Dear friends, There is no reason to get depressed if few profiles have not liked your profile. Life does not end there. Failure is the pillar of success. Unless and until you try, things are not going to happen. So instead of worrying, let us be playful about it.  


Tips to reduce rejections for your profile:-


1)      Update your full information along with your recent photo on matrimonial sites or marriage bureaus to maintain transparency about your profile if someone wants to check.
2)      Thoroughly think about your profile, the positive and negative sides of your personality, family culture, and then list out the qualities you are looking for in your life partner. 
3)      Don’t just blindly shortlist matrimonial profiles, just because you have liked them based on photo/ job/income/place
4)      Carefully study the expectations and lifestyle of that particular profile you are interested in. discuss with your family whether that particular person is going to fit in your lifestyle? 
5)      If you are an astrology believer,  get kundali Milan done first. If kundalis are matching after that proceed with the matrimonial proposal.


Instead of playing the blame game, let us follow some rules in matrimonial search:-


1)       Even if you want to reject anyone, no problem but the answer has to be firm & clear.
2)      Have the courtesy to reply, instead of keeping your decision on long hold.  Remember “ there is always a tit for tat”
3)      Parents are a great influencer, Parents need to understand the moral values behind marriage and accordingly guide their daughter or son. Because materialistic things can be changed and adjusted but compatibility among bride and groom has no alternative. 
4)   Remember, it is a game of numbers and chance at the same time.  Don’t rely on one matching profile. You have to contact, follow up on many matching profiles.
5)      Keep your expectations as flexible as possible so that you will have a large bunch of profiles to explore.
6)      Have a wide perspective of profile judgment, don’t judge anyone just by looking at the photos. Be optimistic and don’t take any decision without meeting anybody at least 3- 4 times. Because I strongly believe that “The First Impression is Not always the Last Impression.”
     

    I hope these above-mentioned steps might help you to make your matrimonial search a little easy.  We are human beings, and we all tend to get affected by the things around us. Even if you feel demotivated to search for a partner due to rejects that are coming our way,  remember, there is still someone out there who strongly needs and deserves Your Sweet Love Forever!!

  9th April, 2021

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