Sagotra Lagna
Mr. and Mrs. Pathak had visited my office regarding their elder daughter, Reena. At 33 years old, Reena was struggling to find a suitable match. When I asked about their family, I learned that Reena had a younger sister who was married and had a two-year-old child.
Surprised, I asked, “How did her younger sister get married so early?” Mr. Pathak explained, “She had a love marriage, and now we’re worried about Reena. Can you suggest some good profiles for her?”
I had several matching profiles that met their expectations. Among them, I thought Nitin would be a perfect match for Reena. When I shared Nitin's background, they seemed happy, and Reena liked his photo. However, after checking the kundali details, Mr. Pathak looked disappointed and said, “We cannot proceed with this profile because both families belong to the same gotra. So this is not the right match.”
Their series of rejections continued. They judged each profile based on factors like income, moon sign, star, Nadi, or gotra. This constant scrutiny only led to frustration.
I asked Mr. Pathak, “Did you check these details for your younger daughter’s marriage?” He confidently replied, “No, since it was a love marriage, we didn’t check kundalis or any other traditional calculations.”
I suggested, “Why not reconsider Nitin’s profile? The kundalis match, and the families are different. What’s the problem?” Unfortunately, Mr. Pathak was firm in his beliefs about gotra.
I didn’t want to delve deeply into astrology, but I wanted to clarify what gotra means. I asked Mr. and Mrs. Pathak if they understood its significance. Mr. Pathak explained, “Yes, gotras trace back to Rishis from Satyuga. People from the same gotra are like siblings, so we won’t proceed.”
I agreed with Mr. Pathak that gotra signifies a clan descending from ancient sages. It traditionally prevents marriages between people of the same gotra due to potential genetic issues.
However, I pointed out that we live in Kaliyuga, with many changes occurring since Satyuga. Over thousands of years, society has transformed due to invasions and changing cultural practices, including love and intercaste marriages.
I asked, “Is it really possible to judge the purity of each gotra? From a medical perspective, it’s always best not to marry close relatives due to genetic risks. But two people from different families with the same gotra are unlikely to face complications. Many couples like this lead happy lives and have healthy children.”
Mr. Pathak pondered my words. By the end of our conversation, he softly admitted, “I guess Nitin is perfect for Reena.”
31st May, 2021
Vikas sattigeri
Nice
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